I’m thinking of forming a religion based around the teachings of ‘Ferris Bueller’s Day Off’. Yes, really! If you’re a fan of the film then not only are you taking me seriously but no further explanation is required. The rest of you are probably wondering what a film from 1986 could possible teach anyone? Like most things in life, it is what you make of it.
Ferris himself has a lot of wisdom to impart;
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while you could miss it”. – Like I always say, life is short. You need to hold on to what is important and make time for that. Because one day it’ll be times up.
“The question isn’t what are we going to do. The question is what aren’t we going to do.” – If you think about where you draw your line in the sand, that is, what you can’t or won’t do according to your beliefs and values, and realise how much there is left out there that you could do if only you put your mind to it – there’s a lot! Most of the things that stand in our way originate from us. Sure, there’s a lot that is outside our control but we are all capable of more than we give ourselves credit for.
“Between grief and nothing… I’ll take grief.” – The principal in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off says this, but when I googled it I found out that it’s actually a quote from American author William Faulkner. Either way, and pretty obviously for regular viewers, I totally believe it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. If your aim is nothingness, numbness, then what is the point really? Ed over at The Infinite Fountain posted this article from the New York Times. The second last paragraph says:
“Recovering from suffering is not like recovering from a disease. Many people don’t come out healed; they come out different. They crash through the logic of individual utility and behave paradoxically. Instead of recoiling from the sorts of loving commitments that almost always involve suffering, they throw themselves more deeply into them. Even while experiencing the worst and most lacerating consequences, some people double down on vulnerability. They hurl themselves deeper and gratefully into their art, loved ones and commitments.”
I get that.
I watched a movie the other night on DVD called ‘Delivery Man’ starring Vince Vaughn. IMDb says “An affable underachiever finds out he’s fathered 533 children through anonymous donations to a fertility clinic 20 years ago. Now he must decide whether or not to come forward when 142 of them file a lawsuit to reveal his identity.” I liked it. If you were the guy in the film would you want to know the kids? Could you let them know you? Personally, I would see this as an opportunity, an adventure, but then that is how I view most things.
Life is short.
Life is for living.
Life is for loving.
Since this has been a post of films and books I will close by quoting the fabulous Auntie Mame –
“Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!”
Don’t be one of them x