I read a great post here after I googled ‘PTSD disconnected.’ I know that it is a marker of the PTSD, that out of step, discombobulated, intense loneliness. Hell, it’s a universally human thing, I think, if you don’t talk degrees. Carl Jung said:
“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself”
There’s not much I can disagree with there. If you don’t feel heard or understood then you feel isolated. Simple. All of us need that connection to others. There’s plenty of research to back that up. Read some stuff on Romanian orphans and failure to thrive if you are interested.
To me it seems simple. We just want someone to say ‘I see you’, to say ‘I hear you’, to know we are not alone. There are situations you find yourself in that no one can really understand and even if they could you really wouldn’t want them to. To have someone really hear you though, that is everything.
And it really doesn’t seem like too much to ask of each other, does it?